Finding Mr Right

by Deb Garraway
March 16, 2011

Settle for Mr. Right Now?

Mr Right Now wins second place


I just read an article I want to share that really got me fired up and provoked some strong emotions in me!

Lori Gottlieb is an American author of a new book called Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. She’s interviewed in this article by Amy Willis, a writer for Telegraph, an online dating service in the UK. Gottlieb claims that women who have failed to find their perfect partner by the age of 30 should give up their search for Mr. Right and settle instead for Mr. Right Now.

Wow! When I read the first few paragraphs of this article, I was stunned that someone would actually assert that women over 30 should settle for less than their expectations in a man.

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by Deb Garraway
November 4, 2010

Fear of Success in Finding Mr. Right

If I find Mr. Right, it may turn out wrong


Are you fairly confident in your overall personal package – looks, financially stable, no baggage

– but when it comes to finding Mr. Right, you get feelings of pressure around sustaining a good relationship once you’ve found it? Perhaps you’re a high achiever and worry that you won’t be able to meet potentially higher expectations from your dream man or for your relationship. Could it be you’re afraid of commitment? Or, is it possible you have a fear of being “found out?” What I mean by that is the fear that Mr. Right won’t think you’re all that special once he gets to know you well. (more…)

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by Deb Garraway
September 19, 2010

Mr. Right Can Feel Your Energy

Oh wow! This one's gotta be my Mr. Right


So here’s one of the problems we women experience in our quest for Mr. Right.

When you meet a man who seems to be perfect for you (and you for him), have you noticed what happens to your energy? What I mean by your energy is literally the way your body vibrates and the signals it’s sending out into the ethers. Others feel the vibration and interpret the signals even if words haven’t been exchanged. For many of us, that energy runs so high and fast that it takes on a life of its own–which is something we don’t want to happen! Here’s why. (more…)

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by Deb Garraway
August 26, 2010

Don’t Make Excuses for Mr. Right

Is he Mr. Right or my excuse for Mr. Right Now?


When we want so much for a guy to be Mr. Right, sometimes our glasses are too rose-colored.

In those romantic moments he seems to be everything you could ever imagine and, oh, the titillating thrill of his touch. He’s so attentive, open and always compliments you. Your head’s whirling, your heart’s racing and pounding, and you can’t stop thinking about him. You can’t wait to see him again and Ohmigosh, the phone’s ringing: Let it please be him! Those glasses get rosier.

Mr. Right seems like Mr. Perfect and you’re inspired to do everything possible to ensure he stays hot and enthralled with you. It feels like you’re falling in love. (more…)

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by Deb Garraway
August 4, 2010

Being Present For the Love of My Life

I almost missed the love of my life

In my book Choose Him: How to Get Clear, Define What You Want, and Attract the Man of Your Dreams, I talk about expressing authentic personal power, which I believe was a key to attracting the love of my life. As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I had decided to write out in great detail exactly what I wanted in a man and my relationship with him; and that I would have that man or be happy remaining single. My definition of authentic personal power is when you make conscious choices and decisions from a place of present-moment awareness and clarity—knowing what you feel, what you want, what is real, and what is really happening. To get to the place of present-moment awareness and clarity, I needed to learn how to be fully present, allow myself to feel my true feelings. Then I had to force myself to stay out of my active mind, which distracted me from what was actually happening in my life.

Being present was not as easy as it sounds.

I thought I knew what it meant, but it took a lot of practice to get there and to become aware of the subtle ways we avoid being fully present with ourselves, as well as with others. (more…)

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