Love Lessons"Before doing my story, I had
never even thought about many
of the things in the story
template, and they’re important."
V.B.
Would you want to get a man with a lifetime rail pass?
Like the Melvin quote above, I’ve tussled with the question of what happens to love. Was it truly love or was it infatuation, lust, or perhaps desperate neediness? Melvin also pleads the question of whether love is meant to be forever. You’ve probably heard the saying, we’re like ships passing in the night, which I interpret to have a similar meaning – that romantic love is a passing thing.
For some women, this must be depressing to read when you’re trying to figure out how to get a man who lasts a lifetime. Personally I believe true love lasts forever, regardless of whether it’s romantic love, friendship love, parental love, or sibling love. True love never goes away, but it can be suppressed and forgotten by life just happening. When love is based on infatuation, lust or desperation, it’s temporary and passing. That kind of love dissipates as fantasies and ideals crumble when real life stuff happens, and when our lover disappoints us by not fulfilling our needs and expectations.
When we think about how to get a man who’ll be there forever, true love isn’t always the answer either. You can love someone deeply, but if your values or ways of dealing with life are not a good match, the relationship may not work or last. That’s a tough situation to be in. But before you get caught up in fantasy of what might be with a man, you can usually see your flawed wishful thinking and may not want to face it – or worse – think you can change him. I believe that in romantic love, more focus should be on the realities of the ways you interact, communicate, and make decisions with a potential partner and less emphasis on wishful faith that true love will conquer all.
What are your thoughts on love being like a train changing at random stops? Please comment below.
