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I Want To Find My Soulmate, Or Is There Such A Thing?

Romantic fantasy is a topic I’ve talked about before, and it’s worth bringing up again since it relates to our desire to find that one person – the only one – who we’re meant to be with forever. When I coach women, they often say, “I want to find my soulmate.” It’s true that most women (and probably men too) hold onto the belief that there’s a soulmate out there who is meant for them alone, and that there’s a mystical connection that bonds them as life partners.

With each new man we fall in love with, we want to believe that fate brought us together, and the evidence is all our synchronicities and things we have in common. Add physical chemistry to the mix, and you have the makings of: “This must be him – my soulmate.” Often we cling to this idea regardless of his mistreatment of us, his philandering, or emotional problems. (more…)

Hard To Find True Love With Expired Software

Some people may think I’m a little bit out there on this topic, but I think in many ways,we’re behaving as if we’re in the dark ages.

We haven’t evolved our romantic relationship roles, behavior, and attitudes to match our social evolution. I’d really like to hear what you think.

Trapped in the past

As with any goal we pursue, there’s tremendous power in knowing what you want and expecting to have it, but many women don’t seem to apply the same philosophy when it comes to romance. (more…)

What I Had To Do To Attract The Man Of My Dreams

Nothing happens unless first a dream.~Carl Sandburg

Do you know what was the most important thing I had to do to attract the man of my dreams? I had to give myself permission to dream about what I really wanted in a man and our relationship together. It seems like such a simple thing to say that, but in my coaching work I find that most women (and perhaps men) have a tough time allowing themselves to fully experience a future vision of what it is that will excite them, warm their hearts and soothe their soul. (more…)

Five Questions To Ask Yourself About Mr. Right

Sometimes I’m asked by my single friends and clients how they will know if a guy they’re falling for really is Mr. Right. It’s so easy to get caught up in a relationship that starts out well, and then problems start to arise. You ask yourself if he’s just not right for you, or if you need to be more understanding and not expect him to be perfect.Let’s say there are lots of checkmarks in the Plus Column: you have physical chemistry, similar values, a shared sense of humor, and a special bond that you feel.
• Are you supposed to work harder to hold the relationship together, even if things aren’t going well?
• Should you feel like you’d be better off as best friends?
• What if there isn’t much chemistry but everything else feels perfect? The key word in each of these questions is the word feel. (more…)

Finding Mr. Right Instead of Mr. Right Now

If you’re like a lot of women who wonder why it’s so hard to find true love,

you might be ready to give up, convinced there aren’t any good men left out there. Believe me, I’ve been there. But that’s just wrong! My research has shown that there are 1.7 million more men than women in the 35-64 age range who have never been married. There are 8 single men to every 8 single women in the 35-44 age range, and between 45-54, single men to women only drops slightly to 7 for every 8 women. Everywhere you turn, there are misleading statistics and (more…)