by Deb Garraway
March 23, 2011
Is this how I get the love of my life?
When you hear people say surrender and let go, don’t you sometimes think to yourself — easy for you to say?
Handcuffs are not the kind of surrendering I’m talking about. Here’s what I mean. When you’re troubled over a confusing relationship, and you don’t know where it’s going or what to do, you’re thinking he’s the love of my life, but his behavior says he may be thinking this isn’t working for me.
Then your girlfriend tells you just to surrender and let go of the outcome, and that if it’s meant to be, it will be. Ugh! None of us likes that kind of advice when things are falling apart or we feel threatened in some way with a relationship.
And what does that saying mean anyway? And how do you actually do that when your emotions are strong and you really want the relationship to work? (more…)
by Deb Garraway
March 8, 2011
Looks like she knows how to attract men
This morning I was talking with my good friend, Tamra, about how we manage our personal energy. We’ve all met people who immediately cause us to react a certain way because of their energy. It can be either repelling and we can’t wait to get away from them, or it can be attractive and we find them likable and pleasant to be around. Most people aren’t aware of their own energy as far as how they affect others, and it’s always interesting to observe others, and of course try to be aware of my own. My other coaching friends can always read my energy, even though we’re on the phone and I’m intentionally trying not to sound like something is bothering me. They bust me every time! (more…)
by Deb Garraway
February 15, 2011
…Tremble with me
in paralyzing pauses.
I may no longer breathe
without breathing you.
~ Judith Pordon
Ah, romance, how we love it—hate it—crave it—resist it—long for it—deny it. We’ve just passed one of single women’s least celebrated days. Red hearts are displayed in every store, along with sentimental Valentine’s poems, cards with schmaltzy love poetry and the musical theme from the tear-jerker movie Love Story, or worse yet An Affair to Remember. (more…)
by Deb Garraway
January 5, 2011
Then there's the crib, clothes, babysitters....
This post is a continuation of my last post related to John,
who he gets home most weeknights at 9:00 p.m. instead of 6:00 p.m., which upsets Mary since he misses 3 hours of evening time that could be shared with her. Thus, arguments ensue. Below are the next steps (#3 and #4) based on the “method” described in my previous post, along with my comments:
3. Invent Options for Mutual Gain
Sometimes situations seem impossible to resolve and your options appear limited; it seems like an either/or situation. Or it appears that it’s the other person’s problem to figure out for themselves. Most people see negotiating a problem as trying to narrow the gap between positions instead of expanding the potential alternatives. The method does not suggest approaching negotiation from those perspectives. It suggests the following process to come up with creative options: (more…)
by Deb Garraway
November 7, 2010
The man of my dreams gets inspired by nature
Have you ever thought in terms of your story of the man of my dreams?
What I mean by your story is the way you actually imagine yourself living from day to day with your dream man.
Much more than just the qualities he possesses, have you thought through any of the following details? (more…)
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