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How to Enjoy Romance and Find My Soulmate

Whenever I’m asked about the best way to find my soulmate, questions often surface about distinguishing between hot and heavy romance with a sizzling guy and certainty that he’s your soulmate.

Many of us have at one time or another been so sure he’s the one, only to be disappointed and hurt that he’s not? Physical attraction can be alluring and a powerful force that makes it difficult to manage your emotions. So how do you keep yourself from falling hard for a man until you’re certain (and he’s certain) you’re the one.

At long last, when I was able to find my soulmate (I call him my dream man)–Wowee zowee!

It sure was a physical and chemical dilemma to put it mildly!

When passionate sparks flew and everything felt so exquisitely good and right between us, it was a challenge to hold back part of myself and my energy from going into fantasy mode of: “this must be him”. (more…)

Don’t Make Excuses for Mr. Right

When we want so much for a guy to be Mr. Right, sometimes our glasses are too rose-colored.

In those romantic moments he seems to be everything you could ever imagine and, oh, the titillating thrill of his touch. He’s so attentive, open and always compliments you. Your head’s whirling, your heart’s racing and pounding, and you can’t stop thinking about him. You can’t wait to see him again and Ohmigosh, the phone’s ringing: Let it please be him! Those glasses get rosier.

Mr. Right seems like Mr. Perfect and you’re inspired to do everything possible to ensure he stays hot and enthralled with you. It feels like you’re falling in love. (more…)

Visualize Him to Attract the Man of Your Dreams

There’s a great article from the Chicago Tribune titled Day Dream Your Way to a Better Life discussing suggestions from Dr. David Burns’ book “Feeling Good”.

Dr. Burns says one of the most enjoyable and effective ways to improve your outlook and pull yourself out of the doldrums is to actually visualize a better life. He goes on to say, “When we read a story, we create a visual image of the characters and the situation. The great communicators use language to create mental images”. Burns recommends creating a dream board with photos and images of things you want to own, places you want to go, accomplishments you want to achieve, and even how you envision yourself in the future. See full article here http://budurl.com/visualizing

Numerous motivational and spiritual teachers speak passionately about the law of attraction and the power of intention in creating your life through focused thoughts and attention on what you desire. (more…)

Love Poetry Can Help You Gain Clarity

I realize not everyone enjoys reading poetry, though I find it inspiring and also useful.

Because poetry relies so much on metaphor and other forms of symbolic language, it can have a profound effect on people when they read it. Good poetry can force you to look at the world—and yourself—differently.
How you respond to various kinds of love poetry could tell you something about your deepest emotional needs and desires.

That’s why I recommend reading all sorts of love poetry from many different eras to see what sort of writing moves you. For example, in reading Elizabeth Barrett Browning, an English Victorian poet, you maybe surprised to realize you’re much more of a romantic than you thought. And perhaps you’d like your dream man to be a romantic sort too. (They do exist, trust me!) (more…)

Could the Man of My Dreams Be a Wife?

Well, I just finished reading a fascinating article in The Atlantic magazine called “The End of Men” by Hanna Rosin. This is a very long article and parts of it may not interest some readers, but I found the statistics and projections for women’s roles in our culture fascinating.

I believe the new place of women in society is having a profound impact on today’s partnering roles and relationship issues.

According to Rosin, “For years, women’s progress has been cast as a struggle for equality. But what if equality isn’t the end point? What if modern, postindustrial society is simply better suited to women?” The article reports on the unprecedented role reversal now under way—and its vast cultural consequences. See the full article here: The End of Men
It’s tough to do justice to this article with these brief highlights that are relevant to my topic, but I’ll do my best. The most stunning assertion is that for the first time in human history, man’s dominant role in our culture is changing “with shocking speed.” (more…)