Where the Heck Do I Find My Soulmate?

I really want to find my soulmate

I just finished reading Patty Stanger’s book called Become Your Own Matchmaker.

Stanger is best known as the Millionaire Matchmaker with a popular television show by that name. While her TV persona is somewhat brazen and raunchy, she comes off more empathetic and kinder in her book. I think she’s pretty sharp and gives great advice to women who come to her with the recurrent request to help me find my soulmate.

Stanger has good suggestions for places to seek out the coveted soulmate,

some of which are highlighted below. I can only give you part of the list without her permission.

o Professional Sporting events –men out-number women 10-1
o Classes related to your interests
o Sushi bar – men will often eat alone here
o Auto and boat shows
o Upscale car dealerships’ cocktail parties –
o Singles wine groups
o Political support groups – volunteer to work
o Ski resorts
o Food, wine & music festivals; concerts
o Electronic stores – ask for advice from men
o Las Vegas

You might want to pick up her book as well, since there are other great tips on ways to improve your chances of meeting men and making yourself more appealing-– according to what her male clients tell her. However, I do object to a lot of focus on making yourself more alluring to attract a millionaire – as if they’re more special than most men. They’re really not. They just happen to have more money and opportunities than non-millionaires. However, my experience is that just because they’re millionaires doesn’t necessarily make them generous, considerate, secure, or emotionally available.

A good friend of mine, Lena, was desperate to marry a rich man for financial security and to have the things she’d always wanted. Well, she found a wealthy man who she thought was her soulmate; he loved many of the same things she loved, chemistry was good, and he had a great sense of humor. He seemed perfect at first. She rushed into marriage only to learn (or opened her eyes to the ever-present red flags) that her new husband was a cheapskate who, after marriage, suddenly didn’t like to do many of the things he said he did and also tightly controlled every dollar. All the things she thought would be accessible to her by marrying a rich man were far from reach, and it wasn’t the life she’d dreamed about. She was miserable and eventually ended the marriage.

Do Love and Life Differently: When looking to find your soulmate, keep your eyes open to red flags to avoid being blinded by the allure of false expectations or financial security. You can’t change him.

Have you ever been with a man who appeared to be one way when you started dating and then changed after you were married or committed? I’d like to hear your experience.

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