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Using Your Computer To Get A Guy

Get the scoop to get a guy for a lifetime.

No, this isn’t about online dating. It’s about strategies to help you in your quest to get not just any guy,

but THE GUY you want to spend the rest of your life with. Welcome to the information age! You can do your own sleuthing and learn just about anything you want to know on the Internet. Now since you’re reading this blog post, I’m assuming you have a modicum of technical ability online.

Let’s start with the basics: Internet research.

So you have a first date set up and you don’t know too much about the man in question. Lots of women know to simply type his name and city into Google and see what comes up—but do you really know what to look for and how to find more info? This tactic requires that you can differentiate your date from others with the same name. (more…)

Love Poetry Then and Now

I choose you as the man of my dreams

A poetic bug bit me today and reminded me of the way romance and partnering has changed over the past 50 years.

Bear with me as I have a little fun with my own version of love poetry describing the past versus the present. 

Sometimes even corny love poetry speaks louder than spoken words can express. Hopefully mine does!

Look of Love Past

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Rules for the Man of My Dreams

The man of my dreams understands my need for space

in which I question some of the rules, standards, and expectations women may link to the idealized “man of my dreams”.

Before I met him, when I thought of the man of my dreams (who’s actually my current husband), I knew I needed much more than a list of qualities. I recognized that something had to change in either the way I was pursuing the man of my dreams or in my expectations for him and our relationship together. It turned out to be both.

I needed to get clear about what I wanted, which may sound simple to some of you, but I assure you it wasn’t easy. After two previous marriages and a couple of long-term relationships, a light bulb finally snapped on making me aware of the perspective from which I’d been pursuing a partnership. I wanted a romantic partnership, not the traditional concept of a relationship or marriage from my mother’s era. (more…)

Is This How to Get A Man Who Doesn’t Cheat?

To get a man who’s faithful....make less money?

YIKES! I just read an article in the HealthDay News that says a man is more likely to cheat if he makes much less money than his wife or female partner does.

It also reports that a woman is more likely to cheat if she makes more than her husband or male partner. The study, which surveyed 9000 people under the age of 27, found that more than twice as many men cheated on their partners. The study author revealed that her impetus for the study was a male friend’s confession that he cheated on his partner because she made all the money, and he felt completely powerless. While the overall percentage of cheaters was small in her study (7% of men and 3% of women), infidelity seemed to rise when one partner made a lot more money than the other. My research indicates that about 50% of women and 60% of men cheat at some time during their relationship;and infidelity has more than doubled in the past decade. (more…)

How to Get a Guy Without Being a Bitch

Is this how to get a guy to love you?

Pardon my French, but I’m referring to media and books such as best-seller “Why Men Marry Bitches:

A Woman’s Guide to Winning Her Man’s Heart” by Sherry Argov.
It’s a great marketing title but does reinforce the outdated cliché that assertive men are considered strong while assertive women are called bitches. This book offers some good dating advice, but the problem I have with it is that it’s written from the perspective of a woman needing to win a man’s heart– as if it’s a contest. I’ve said this before but it’s worth repeating: women should never pursue a man to win his heart, convince him you’re the one, or pressure him to marry you. This strategy for how to get a guy to want you only works temporarily. The real you will eventually show up, and the game will be over with ensuing problems, losing yourself or losing the guy. (more…)