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Find True Love by Feeling Your Way

Can I find true love with a list?

Often women tell me they know exactly what they want in a man

and won’t settle for anything less to find true love. They’ve written out a list of qualities that they must have and sometimes include things they don’t want—the absolute deal breakers. In my opinion, making a list of qualities you want in a man is like making a grocery shopping list without having a recipe for what you want to cook. Let’s see, I’ll buy onions, pickles, tomato sauce, chocolate chips, eggs, Tabasco, and cottage cheese. I like all of those foods, BUT if I threw them all together in a pan and baked it in the oven, I doubt anyone would want to eat it! Let me clarify what I’m saying with the following examples of a good man-list gone bad when it comes to the relationship recipe. (more…)

How to Attract Men With Affirmations

We've still got what it takes to attract men!

While I’m not a big fan of repetitive affirmations without connecting them to your heartfelt feelings,

Jessica, the little girl in this video sure can teach us some lessons about how to attract men using affirmations. You’ve got to see this one. http://budurl.com/toloveme

What I love about the lesson for a lot of us women is that Jessica uses her entire body, movement, expressions, voice, and energy to bolster what she loves in herself and her life.

I’ve read that it helps to reinforce beliefs and changes desired in ourselves by incorporating body movement such as working out or dancing simultaneously with words or affirmations. (more…)

How to Get a Man Like Buying a Car

Lucky me...way to buy a car AND get a man!

Being in the midst of looking for a car online, I started thinking about the similarity in the process of how to get a man through online matchmaking services.

Online dating wasn’t as widely used sixteen years ago when I was “on the market”, but the comparison with my car search gave me a real sense of how overwhelming the process can be today. There are a gazillion brands and models of cars with a multitude of options and price tags. I know my price range, so that makes it a bit easier, but not much.

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Why Do I Need to Get A Man?

Why do I really want to get a man?

This question seems to be on the minds of a lot of single women these days.

I have single friends who tell me they don’t need to get a man for the role of financial provider, future security, safety, or even to have a baby. Nowadays it’s very commonplace for women to bear children through surrogate fathers, artificial insemination, or through adoption. When I’m asked why do I need to get a man, my answer is what do you want? Seems like a trite response to an earnest question, but it really is that simple. The problem for most single women I’ve met is that they’re not used to delving into what it is they’re actually missing by not having a man in their life; and therefore aren’t looking at possible alternatives for the missing things, which makes the void in their life feel deeper. (more…)

Self-Power Tools for How to Find My Soulmate

Do I find my soulmate by connecting with his soul?

From time to time I’ll be writing about self-power tools and ideas to increase your personal power in dating and partnering.

After lots of dating a variety of men and finally settling down with the love of my life, I’ve learned a great deal about my own personal power. I call it self-power since it draws attention to the fact that we can access our own internal power rather than looking for someone on the outside to empower us, including a man.

My preference is to call him my dream man, but many women want to know the answer to the question: how do I find my soulmate? I recently read that the majority of both single men and women want to find their soulmate. Most of us want that special someone with whom we form a special bond, the closeness, touching, and knowledge that someone is there for us and cares for us through thick and thin forever. (more…)