by Deb Garraway
March 23, 2011
Is this how I get the love of my life?
When you hear people say surrender and let go, don’t you sometimes think to yourself — easy for you to say?
Handcuffs are not the kind of surrendering I’m talking about. Here’s what I mean. When you’re troubled over a confusing relationship, and you don’t know where it’s going or what to do, you’re thinking he’s the love of my life, but his behavior says he may be thinking this isn’t working for me.
Then your girlfriend tells you just to surrender and let go of the outcome, and that if it’s meant to be, it will be. Ugh! None of us likes that kind of advice when things are falling apart or we feel threatened in some way with a relationship.
And what does that saying mean anyway? And how do you actually do that when your emotions are strong and you really want the relationship to work? (more…)
by Deb Garraway
December 15, 2010
The love of my life is a man I can trust
Most everyone has heard about the Law of Attraction since the movie The Secret became a global phenomenon a few years ago.
Some people were disappointed that a significant part of the process of attraction wasn’t clearly represented in the movie.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with the law, the premise is that thoughts have an energy which attracts whatever it is the person is thinking about. In order to control this energy to one’s advantage, proponents say that
people must practice four things:
• Be very clear about and know exactly what you want
• Ask the universe or God for it (more…)
by Deb Garraway
November 24, 2010
Lucky me...way to buy a car AND get a man!
Being in the midst of looking for a car online, I started thinking about the similarity in the process of how to get a man through online matchmaking services.
Online dating wasn’t as widely used sixteen years ago when I was “on the market”, but the comparison with my car search gave me a real sense of how overwhelming the process can be today. There are a gazillion brands and models of cars with a multitude of options and price tags. I know my price range, so that makes it a bit easier, but not much.
The sorting process is confusing and distressing with so many factors to consider, especially if it’s a used car. Even though you might like the brand, model, and age of the car, you really don’t know for sure how comfortable it’s going to be on a long drive,if there are any hidden defects, or if it’s going to cost you too much in the long run with ongoing problems. Sounds like a man search to me!
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by Deb Garraway
November 10, 2010
Is this the only way to find true love?
Remember the song Free Falling by Tom Petty? This song can be interpreted in so many ways,
everything from he’s happy to be free from a woman he just broke up with, to the other extreme that he’s addicted to drugs and leaves her because she’s a good girl he doesn’t deserve. He has his freedom, but he feels like he’s free falling from a drug high to the ground. Sounds like a very scary thing, like jumping out of an airplane with no parachute. Hear it sung by John Mayer here. http://budurl.com/freefall (more…)
by Deb Garraway
November 4, 2010
If I find Mr. Right, it may turn out wrong
Are you fairly confident in your overall personal package – looks, financially stable, no baggage
– but when it comes to finding Mr. Right, you get feelings of pressure around sustaining a good relationship once you’ve found it? Perhaps you’re a high achiever and worry that you won’t be able to meet potentially higher expectations from your dream man or for your relationship. Could it be you’re afraid of commitment? Or, is it possible you have a fear of being “found out?” What I mean by that is the fear that Mr. Right won’t think you’re all that special once he gets to know you well. (more…)
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