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Will the Love of My Life Please Sign Here

He's the love of my life...but marriage is a contract.

Some of you may be asking why should I be thinking about prenuptial agreements when I still need to find the love of my life.

This recent article titled “Prenups 101: More Couples Sign Agreements Before They Say I Do,” appearing on ABC News website, is good information for planning ahead. Read more www.budurl.com/Prenups101
You’d be surprised how your feelings and expectations around this topic can affect your attitude while dating. It’s one of those topics that’s often suppressed as a low priority until you actually meet someone and plan to tie the knot.

However, your attitude about what’s yours is yours and his is his –or not—plays a key part in how you think and behave while dating or in a relationship. Here are a few examples: (more…)

Where the Heck Do I Find My Soulmate?

I really want to find my soulmate

I just finished reading Patty Stanger’s book called Become Your Own Matchmaker.

Stanger is best known as the Millionaire Matchmaker with a popular television show by that name. While her TV persona is somewhat brazen and raunchy, she comes off more empathetic and kinder in her book. I think she’s pretty sharp and gives great advice to women who come to her with the recurrent request to help me find my soulmate.

some of which are highlighted below. I can only give you part of the list without her permission. (more…)

Rules for the Man of My Dreams

The man of my dreams understands my need for space

in which I question some of the rules, standards, and expectations women may link to the idealized “man of my dreams”.

Before I met him, when I thought of the man of my dreams (who’s actually my current husband), I knew I needed much more than a list of qualities. I recognized that something had to change in either the way I was pursuing the man of my dreams or in my expectations for him and our relationship together. It turned out to be both.

I needed to get clear about what I wanted, which may sound simple to some of you, but I assure you it wasn’t easy. After two previous marriages and a couple of long-term relationships, a light bulb finally snapped on making me aware of the perspective from which I’d been pursuing a partnership. I wanted a romantic partnership, not the traditional concept of a relationship or marriage from my mother’s era. (more…)

Rules from Love Poetry

Will I perish without the love of my life?

“So dear I Love him that with him, all deaths I could endure. Without him, live no Life.”~William Shakespeare from Romeo & Juliet

It’s three hours into my five-hour flight to Hawaii with my sisters for our annual getaway. We just finished watching the movie Letters to Juliet about a young writer, Sophie, who travels to Italy with her fiancé. He turns out to be extremely passionate about his restaurant business but not so attentive to her. While they’re in this beautiful, romantic town of Verona, the place of Romeo and Juliet’s ill-fated love, Sophie’s fiancé immerses himself in work and leaves her alone most of the trip. Sophie finally decides that she didn’t miss him that much (the cute guy she met influenced her a tad too). She dreamily concludes that any woman who believes a man is the love of her life would want to spend “every moment with him”. I flinched. (more…)

Mr. Right Can Feel Your Energy

Oh wow! This one's gotta be my Mr. Right

So here’s one of the problems we women experience in our quest for Mr. Right.

When you meet a man who seems to be perfect for you (and you for him), have you noticed what happens to your energy? What I mean by your energy is literally the way your body vibrates and the signals it’s sending out into the ethers. Others feel the vibration and interpret the signals even if words haven’t been exchanged. For many of us, that energy runs so high and fast that it takes on a life of its own–which is something we don’t want to happen! Here’s why. (more…)