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Will the Love of My Life Please Sign Here

He's the love of my life...but marriage is a contract.

Some of you may be asking why should I be thinking about prenuptial agreements when I still need to find the love of my life.

This recent article titled “Prenups 101: More Couples Sign Agreements Before They Say I Do,” appearing on ABC News website, is good information for planning ahead. Read more www.budurl.com/Prenups101
You’d be surprised how your feelings and expectations around this topic can affect your attitude while dating. It’s one of those topics that’s often suppressed as a low priority until you actually meet someone and plan to tie the knot.

However, your attitude about what’s yours is yours and his is his –or not—plays a key part in how you think and behave while dating or in a relationship. Here are a few examples: (more…)

Why Do I Need to Get A Man?

Why do I really want to get a man?

This question seems to be on the minds of a lot of single women these days.

I have single friends who tell me they don’t need to get a man for the role of financial provider, future security, safety, or even to have a baby. Nowadays it’s very commonplace for women to bear children through surrogate fathers, artificial insemination, or through adoption. When I’m asked why do I need to get a man, my answer is what do you want? Seems like a trite response to an earnest question, but it really is that simple. The problem for most single women I’ve met is that they’re not used to delving into what it is they’re actually missing by not having a man in their life; and therefore aren’t looking at possible alternatives for the missing things, which makes the void in their life feel deeper. (more…)

Maybe It Isn’t About Mr. Right At All

Could I be resisting my Mr. Right?

So many people say all the good men are taken that lots of women have come to believe there is no Mr. Right for them.

Then they can go on to bash all the men they manage to date who fail their standards. Which of course becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. If this resonates with you at all, I have a radical idea for you. What if you flipped your mind around and allowed the possibility that there ARE plenty of good men still out there. And further—what if you considered whether or not the problem could lie with you. (more…)

Find True Love Who’s Playing for Keeps

Oh geez, sorry. I didn't find true love with you.

Here I go again, but I’m hopelessly addicted to the wacky The Bachelor/ Bachelorette TV show.

The latest is they’re bringing back the much-bashed bachelor, Brad Womack. If you’re a fan, you may remember the Texas bar owner hottie from two years ago. He shocked America by breaking the hearts of the last two women remaining in the finale and rejected them both!

I couldn’t believe the public’s reaction, calling him the most hated man in America. He literally had to stop dating and go into virtual hiding to avoid the humiliating lambasting. However, today he claims he’ll definitely find a wife on the show. Talk about pressure to perform — is this any way to find true love? Can’t wait to find out! (more…)

Love Poetry Then and Now

I choose you as the man of my dreams

A poetic bug bit me today and reminded me of the way romance and partnering has changed over the past 50 years.

Bear with me as I have a little fun with my own version of love poetry describing the past versus the present. 

Sometimes even corny love poetry speaks louder than spoken words can express. Hopefully mine does!

Look of Love Past

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