by Deb Garraway
October 1, 2010
Would you want to get a man with a lifetime rail pass?
“Is love supposed to last throughout all time, or is it like trains changing at random stops. If I loved her, how could I leave her? If I felt that way then, how come I don’t feel anything now?” ~Melvin, Jeff
Do you ever wonder where love goes when it vanishes from you or from the man you believed was going to be yours forever?
Like the Melvin quote above, I’ve tussled with the question of what happens to love. Was it truly love or was it infatuation, lust, or perhaps desperate neediness? Melvin also pleads the question of whether love is meant to be forever. You’ve probably heard the saying, we’re like ships passing in the night, which I interpret to have a similar meaning – that romantic love is a passing thing.
Does True Love Last Forever?
For some women, this must be depressing to read when you’re trying to figure out how to get a man who lasts a lifetime. Personally I believe true love lasts forever, regardless of whether it’s romantic love, friendship love, parental love, or sibling love. (more…)
by Deb Garraway
September 19, 2010
Oh wow! This one's gotta be my Mr. Right
So here’s one of the problems we women experience in our quest for Mr. Right.
When you meet a man who seems to be perfect for you (and you for him), have you noticed what happens to your energy? What I mean by your energy is literally the way your body vibrates and the signals it’s sending out into the ethers. Others feel the vibration and interpret the signals even if words haven’t been exchanged. For many of us, that energy runs so high and fast that it takes on a life of its own–which is something we don’t want to happen! Here’s why. (more…)
by Deb Garraway
September 10, 2010
Is this why it's said true love is blind?
To answer my own question, this is not how to get a guy to think you’re hot.
I’m back on the “Bachelor Pad” TV show again because its contestants show us the most unattractive stereotypes of self-degrading, delusional qualities– especially the ladies (I use the term loosely). They’re operating from outdated perceptions of what it takes to get a man to want them; and therefore want a relationship with them; and therefore love them; and therefore commit to them (or marry) for the happily ever-after fantasy. These women not only set a bad example for young girls, but they throw women’s evolution back one hundred years! (more…)
by Deb Garraway
September 4, 2010
He sure feels like my soulmate
Whenever I’m asked about the best way to find my soulmate, questions often surface about distinguishing between hot and heavy romance with a sizzling guy and certainty that he’s your soulmate.
Many of us have at one time or another been so sure he’s the one, only to be disappointed and hurt that he’s not? Physical attraction can be alluring and a powerful force that makes it difficult to manage your emotions. So how do you keep yourself from falling hard for a man until you’re certain (and he’s certain) you’re the one.
At long last, when I was able to find my soulmate (I call him my dream man)–Wowee zowee!
It sure was a physical and chemical dilemma to put it mildly!
When passionate sparks flew and everything felt so exquisitely good and right between us, it was a challenge to hold back part of myself and my energy from going into fantasy mode of: “this must be him”. (more…)
by Deb Garraway
August 30, 2010
True love or a fantasy love of my life?
Currently I’m reading a romance mystery novel that contains an intriguing whodunit;
but on the romantic side, it’s the same old common storyline that I’m sure you’ll recognize from novels, TV and movies. It’s about a single woman reporter who tracks down a key witness to a murder, and on arrival to his home located on a secluded ranch, she finds it unlocked with no sign of the man. Hours go by, so she decides to wait for him and falls asleep on his sofa. She’s awakened with a shotgun pointed at her by the surprised witness, who just happens to be a ruggedly handsome brute. He’s angry at her intrusion, and after a few minutes of bantering, he decides to frighten her away by stripping naked, forcing her against a wall, fondling her breasts and brutally kissing her. She can’t resist his masculine force (not to mention his ripped body), and within seconds they’re in bed in fiery copulation that she’s never experienced before. After sex, they resume their heated battle of the wits; but in the end, he becomes her soulmate. (more…)